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Crisis

👉 The outcome is not determined by the stressor alone—it’s determined by how the family responds.

👉 Most people don’t fail because of the crisis—they struggle because of the pileup and lack of support.

When facing a crisis:

1. Identify the stressor

  • What actually happened?

2. List your resources

  • What do I already have?
  • Who can help?

3. Check perception

  • How am I viewing this?
  • Is there another way to see it?

4. Watch for pileup

  • What new stress is being added?

5. Add resources

  • What new help can I find?

6. Aim for adaptation

  • Growth > survival

Core Idea:
👉 It’s not just what happens—it’s how you respond over time.

Adult

Precrisis

  • What is the stressor (a)?
  • What resources do you have (b)?
  • How do you view this situation (c)?

Postcrisis

  • What additional stress has piled up (aA)?
  • What new resources can you use (bB)?
  • How do you view the situation now (cC)?

Outcome

  • Are you moving toward growth or decline? (xX)
  • What is one step toward improvement?

Teen Worksheet

  • 1. What happened?
  • What else is making it harder?
  • What support do I already have?
  • What new support could I find?
  • How am I thinking about this?
  • What’s a healthier way to see it?
  • What direction am I heading?
    • ☐ Growing
    • ☐ Stuck
    • ☐ Declining

Children

  • What happened?
    • ✏️ Draw or write
  •  Who can help you?
  • What makes it harder?
  • What makes it better?
  • One thing I can do today:

Coping Tool

Identifying & Using Resources

  • Internal Resources:
    • Mindset
    • Experience
    • Communication
    • Skills
  • External Resources:
    • Friends & family
    • Community programs
    • Professionals (therapy, doctors)
    • Support groups